Equal Parenting

            Most of what I see is that women often experience limited access, where one of the most basic issues I raise is how when a woman speaks about something that is very clear in gender issues that are very vulnerable to "Stereotypes" that demand that we as Women or Girls are always Educated "Rights and Obligations" as if carrying the title "Qodrat", which in the end all of this becomes a widespread problem with the point of always differentiating between the Rights and Obligations of Men and Women. Without us realizing this character has been embedded or even never taught as equality is considered common because the direction is towards a Qodrat, this becomes a small tumor that we do not realize is the root of the beginning of a dangerous cancer, a "One-sided Conflict Elaboration" that does not involve the owners of rights and obligations, resulting in inequality.

            "Feminists oh feminists..." that's the insult I often hear about a woman's idea being rejected because of a critical way of thinking. I will give you one small example of patriarchal and matriarchal culture, which without us realizing it, this attitude has been formed since we were little because our parents made mistakes in educating us.

            Have parents ever differentiated between the roles of boys at home and girls at home? Why are boys taught not to do household responsibilities while girls are always demanded and criticized like this "What do you want to be? As a woman, you'll be lazy, don't do housework, and have no responsibility for housework. What will you be like when you become a mother? Women and their husbands will have to "suwarga nunut, neraka katut " "She likes to hang out, she's not a proper woman" "Ridho just go, let Alya tidy up your room later" "Independent women are hard to control and think they're smart, their egos are big, don't follow them, it's not clear, not like women in the past who were like (@$#$%%)", even though without us realizing it, the root of a wrong upbringing and forming different Behavior, Interests, and Responsibilities. And not equal or even detrimental to the female population where this includes Economic, Social, and Political. Women often experience Gender Gap (Gender Gap) in Education, Legal Protection, Access to Health Services, and also Opportunities in Decent Work.

            According to World Data Reports from various countries on women, this has become a crucial global focus, clearly detailing the fight for women's and girls' rights. The following data is from UN Women Indonesia:

Indonesia's Gender Inequality Index (GIG):

• 2023: 0.447.
• 2022: 0.459.
• 2021: 0.465.
• 2018: 0.499.

Wage Gap:

• 2022: 22.09%.
• 2021: 20.39%.
• The largest wage gap: in the service sector (43% in 2021).

Women's Representation in Government:

• 2024 Election: 21.9% of the total quota of 30%.
• Global gender equality ranking: Indonesia ranked 87th in 2023.

Achieving Gender Equality:

• 2023: The Global Gender Gap Score reaches 68.4% or 0.684.
• 2022: Gender equality score 69.7%.

Improvements in Gender Equality:

• Improvements in all dimensions: Reproductive health, empowerment, and the labor market.
• Decrease in IKG in most provinces: IKG turun sebesar 0,026 poin menjadi 0,421, lebih dari dua kali lipat tingkat penurunan tahun sebelumnya.

Gaps in Education:

• Elementary school level: 70% female teachers, 45% female principals.

Representation of Women in the World of Work:

• Female workers: 33.52%.
• Labor Force Participation Rate (TPAK): 55.41% for women, 84.02% for men (February 2024).

            From this, we can learn that the influence of equal parenting (shared parenting) involves two parents who share the responsibility of raising their children, including childcare, household chores, and the emotional burden of parenting. This approach aims to eliminate gender norms and ensure that both parents actively participate in all aspects of childcare. Without us realizing it, this small thing is captured deeply in the memory of the formation of children in their development. Still saying "What is that? In the past there was no such strange thing" "violating parenting norms is really unimportant, damaging women's morals."

So open your eyes before you become a parent, being a parent is indeed hard. And not only about that, it is broader than that💓💞